It is tempting to keep looking for the one thing you need to do to be happy. Sometimes we would be better off looking for things we can eliminate. To figure out whether you should give something up, compare the downside with the upside.
I used to look at the news multiple times per day until I read that it tends to be depressing (in hindsight, seems obvious). I gave it up and do not miss it. When something significant happens, I hear about it from friends or family.
Keeping up on the news
Downside – potential depression
Upside – can’t think of any
Conclusion – goodbye news
I was on Twitter for a while, then realized it was a hate-fest that was bringing me down. I took a break from it when I went on a week-long trip and never went back. I missed the interesting articles and discussions, but now I find those elsewhere without the negativity.
Reading Tweets
Downside – exposed to a lot of hate
Upside – some interesting articles, most of which are available elsewhere
Conclusion – goodbye Twitter
You can apply this approach to habits, relationships, food, vices, etc. What will you give up to make room for something that makes you happy?
PS – The June SimplyBetter Growth Challenge starts tomorrow. What have you selected to improve (or give up)?
Every morning, after a sensible breakfast, I will read for one hour, in exchange for reheating my cup of tea, snacking, watching GMA. By the end of the month, I will have read a book (from beginning to end.)
Good for you! That sounds like a great trade up.