Our words reflect how we think and affect what we do or don’t do. Trish and I were discussing this, reflecting on how often we say, “I need to…” or “I should…” or even, “We should think about…”
The downfall of these words is that they defer action. If we’re honest, we could often finish such sentences with, “if I ever have the time (I won’t)” or “but I’m not going to because something else always comes up.” It reminds me of an idea attributed to many sources:
Your thoughts become words;
Your words become actions;
Your actions become habits;
Your habits become character;
Your character becomes your destiny.
Your words may direct the course of your life, so choose your words like your life depends on it. If taking action is important (it is), choose words that reflect impending action: “This week, I will…” or “I have decided to…” No need to hedge your words when action is your priority.
Do the words you choose help you defer action or commit to it?
I resonate with this, language like that has become so ingrained that it’s habitual and we’ve stopped considering whether we actually mean what we say any more.
I correct myself when I say I’m going to try to do something. As Yoda said, do or do not. There is no try :).
I love the wisdom of Yoda.
Agree, it’s easy to fall into patterns and lose the plot. Correcting yourself sounds like a good practice. Self-awareness is most useful when it helps us make a positive change.