Your words are a window to your thoughts. If you often use negative language, you probably have a lot of negative thinking. It takes some effort, but you can learn to think and speak positively. Luckily, each reinforces the other.

Even with apologies, you can be positive. For example, “I am sorry for being late” is a focus on a negative feeling for a negative behavior. To make this positive, focus on your gratitude for someone who is willing to wait for you. Instead of saying you’re sorry, thank them for their patience.

What matters most is the intent behind your words. The more you have positive intent, the easier it is to speak positively.

Start paying attention to how you speak. What do your words say about how you think?