An honest self-assessment

Written by Jim Chaput
After a 19-year career in financial services, Jim left a leadership position to focus on health and fitness. Jim is a Master Practitioner of Applied Movement Neurology and holds Certificates in Applied Functional Science and 3DMAPS from the Gray Institute. His passion is empowering people to help resolve the pain, tension and insomnia that prevents them from living well.

I recently realized that I’m not as good at listening as I previously believed. I was involved in two heated debates over the weekend. Upon reflection, both could have been avoided if I had listened more effectively. I’ve also been interrupting people which is almost never a good idea.

Some lessons to which I’ve been reminded:
– Listening closely is not the same as listening effectively. In many cases, empathy is better than attention to detail.
– Curiosity is almost always more welcome than judgement.
– If I can’t keep my thought long enough to avoid interrupting, it’s probably not worth keeping.

Though I normally start new challenges at the beginning of the month, now is a great time to change things up. For the rest of the month, I will focus on listening more effectively. If you catch me doing one of my bad habits, please let me know. Sometimes, it takes a village.

What’s a skill you have that you’ve realized is not as good as you had believed?

1 Comment

  1. Pat

    Sticking with a job until it is done.
    I could be wearing too many hats, and I am constantly distracted by things that need to be done. Spring cleaning is a huge task.
    Yardwork needs to be done. The Sun came out!
    Focus.
    Finish one thing before I start another.
    Take time to care for myself.
    Help!!!