The value of early feedback
We went to a wedding a few weeks ago and I wore dress clothes that had been languishing in my closet. The trousers felt more snug than I expected. I realized that wearing forgiving workout clothes every day might be hiding the fact that my waist is expanding.
Don’t get me wrong, I love being able to wear super comfortable clothes. I cannot imagine going back to wearing suits to work. Even so, there’s value in wearing things that tell me when I’m heading in the wrong direction. Without that feedback, it’s easy to get way off track before I start to make course corrections.
How do you know whether the choices you make are hurting or helping?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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