Choice versus obligation
If you’re a loyal reader, you might have noticed that I did not publish a blog yesterday. What happened!?
We had guests for the weekend and I realized I hadn’t finished a blog just as I was going to bed. In the past, I would have pulled out my computer and got it done even at the cost of getting a good night’s sleep. Not this time; I recently decided that the blog was not my priority.
After reflecting on how I’ve been spending my time, I realized I wanted to spend more time reading and learning. I decided that I would give up my daily blog to free up some time. As sometimes happens, deciding that I didn’t need to write every day made the process a bit easier. Without the pressure, I wrote a bunch of blog posts with little effort and kept publishing daily…until yesterday.
So here we are. I will still publish new blogs as long as I can accomplish my more important tasks first. Without the pressure of imminent deadlines, maybe it will bring me even more joy. 😀
What do you do that seems a lot easier when you don’t see it as an obligation?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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