The path forward
There is a big difference between considering a change and deciding to make a change. For me, considering a change means it’s often on my mind. While I’m on my current path, I often think about the potential future path and where it might lead me. Sometimes this leads to a tipping point of realizing the current path no longer serves me best. The new path is what I must follow.
The decision to change creates a challenge. You know you need to be on a different path and it can take some time to transition. While you’re in transition, the old path that was fine not too long ago can feel obsolete and stifling.
This happened to me when I transitioned from financial services to health and fitness. It started as a “what if?” and as my plan came together it became a matter of when to pull the trigger.
The day I finally decided to leave the corporate world made every subsequent day harder than I expected. It was like I realized I had got on the wrong flight and I was stuck heading in the wrong direction. Knowing that I should make the best of it until I could take action didn’t help much. In hindsight, I waited too long to change.
What do you do to cope with being on the wrong path when a better path becomes clear?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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