Moderation
I have a strong tendency to play devil’s advocate. This can be helpful or annoying depending on the situation. Many behaviors that are welcome in moderation become annoying when overused.
Since I became conscious of my excesses, I have moderated my devil’s advocacy. It still happens in my head and I exercise self-control to keep my thoughts to myself. To help my efforts, I offer empathy or ask questions.
What behaviors do you moderate for the sake of others?
Hopefully, my questions cause you to reflect on your own thinking, relationships or choices. Maybe I even inspire you to make positive changes.
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