One of the challenges with correcting irrational behavior is that there may be no rational explanation for why it occurred. I recently flew off the handle and I’m not sure why. What exactly should I do to avoid it next time?
I’m hoping that non-violent communication has the answer. If I feel myself heating up, it’s time to put on giraffe ears. Instead of focusing on me, I should think about the other person’s unmet needs. I think it will be harder to be frustrated or angry when I focus on someone else.
When you realize you overreacted or behaved irrationally, what do you do to fix it?
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I came across NVC a few years ago and although intellectually I created the concept I’ve found it much harder to put into practice. Especially with those closest to me who are able to push my buttons. I find that even though my moments of anger seem irrational and out of the blue, I’m getting better at recognising what need of my own hasn’t been met when I’m triggered that way.
I think in the moment will always be most challenging. The big difference I’ve seen from NVC is the ability to take a new perspective on long-standing bad patterns in relationships. Sometimes this helps break the pattern and prevents those stressful moments from happening.